Never send money. For any reason.
Matrimonial fraud in India almost always follows the same shape: weeks of warm, attentive conversation, then a sudden emergency — a hospital bill, a parcel stuck at customs, a visa fee, an investment that closes tonight. The story is designed to make refusing feel unkind.
No genuine match will ever ask you for a transfer, a UPI ID, bank details, an OTP, or a payment on their behalf. If it happens, it is a scam — regardless of how long you have been talking, how much they have told you, or how much you like them.
What the firewall actually does
A scam, in the order it arrives. Step through it and watch what happens to each message.
Nothing fires. Most messages are just messages, and a firewall that flags this one would be ignored by the time it mattered.
Every rule named above is real — off_platform_early, fin_emergency, fin_send_money, fin_upi and fin_hinglish are seeded in the database and run on every message before it is delivered. The conversation is written for this page; the rules it trips, and the severity each one carries, are checked against the live rule set by a test rather than typed here.
What we actually do
Mechanisms, not reassurances.
- Messages are checked before delivery. A message asking for money or payment details is held — the person it was aimed at never sees it. Most platforms warn you after the message lands. By then the ask has already been made.
- The warning cannot be dismissed early on. For the first twenty messages of any conversation, the financial safety notice stays put. That is the window in which people are most often talked out of their own judgement.
- Your number stays yours. Messages run through the platform. Nobody gets your phone number, address or email unless you send it yourself — and we will ask you to think twice if you do it in the first week.
- Serious cases reach a person. Threats, suspected impersonation and financial fraud are escalated to a human reviewer, with a two-hour target for the most serious.
- You can disappear from someone. Blocking is symmetric and immediate. They cannot see you, appear in your matches, or reach you again.
What verification means — and what it does not
This is the part most platforms are vague about.
When we say a mobile number is verified, we mean someone entered a code sent to it. When we say identity is verified, we mean a document was checked against a name. That is all it means.
Verification does not tell you whether someone is kind, honest, actually single, or serious about marriage. We will never describe anyone as “100% genuine” or “trusted”, because we have no way to know that, and telling you otherwise would make you less careful at exactly the wrong moment.
Meeting in person
- · Meet somewhere public, the first few times.
- · Tell someone where you are going and when you expect to be back.
- · Arrange your own transport, both ways.
- · Leave whenever you want to. You do not owe anyone an explanation.
- · If something feels off, that feeling is information. Act on it.
Your data
You can see everything we hold about you, correct it, export it, or delete your account and have it removed. We keep a record of what you consented to and when, and you can withdraw any of it.